7 Habits That Fire the Disappointment or Surviving Pattern
Six Laws of Life:
1. Stop telling people your plans.
2. Know when to say no.
Strong people put their well-being before pleasing others. Practice saying no more often.
3. Make a decision and commit to it.
Too many people lack discipline and go back to their toxic patterns. Decide to change and stick to it.
4. There is power in numbers.
Nobody has made it in life all by themselves. You need a team that uplifts and supports you. Stop being a lone wolf.
5. Starve your distractions & feed your focus.
Focus on your goals instead of cheap dopamine. You will achieve anything you ever wanted.
6. Always provide value to others.
There is only one secret to success: making other people's lives easier. In business and relationships, providing value will keep you, their priority.
These six laws of life serve as a guideline for you to have better boundaries for you to live by. We all have made big and small mistakes in one or all of these six laws of life.
How do you handle your mistakes in your life? Can you trust your unconscious mind to remain calm, easy going and practice patience through self-kindness as you try new things? Are you expecting to make mistakes and following your contingency plan of things you will do to keep moving forward toward your project?
Many of us tend to overreact, become overly critical and play the blame game we do inside ourselves or toward the people we are in a relationship with that often leads to you going to the fight, flight, or fawn response.
“There is no failure, only feedback, no mistakes, only outcomes” is a quote from Clifford Wright when discussing the assumptions of NLP.
Survival mode is known as the fight, flight or freeze, or fawn response. When you are in survival mode, your body keeps score and is working on a positive intention or a secondary benefit to keep you safe. These benefits often serve to protect you like a warm, comfortable blanket that keeps you safe through the storms of your life.
You always have a passionate desire to accomplish your goals and have closure. Instead, the accomplishments are based on a sense of self-improvement or proving someone is wrong. This leads you to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Your thinking is more about being obsessive with expecting the fears to happen.
What is expected will be realized by your unconscious mind to where your behaviors match the fear and overwhelm.
You may start to gaslight situations or people around you. Simply put your behaviors and your thoughts just make it difficult for success to happen. You start to dissociate and only focus on what you are already good at. You start to resent the help from others.
You just forget your goal completely.
The cycle of the big dip in your self-esteem starts to happen in a loop where there are no outcomes, no goals and just doing things to avoid the risks. It is often called being risk-averse. You are also tired and exhausted, and you just may feel like an idiot. Your attitude is like it is not worth doing because nothing is working. So, I may just give up.
For review here is a quick 1-2-3 list for you:
7 Habits That Fire the Disappointment or Surviving Pattern
1. Passionate desire for accomplishment with a sense to improve self to where your ego is in the game of proving yourself.
2. Feelings of Anxiety & Overwhelmed, Stress and Overwhelmed
3. Obsessive with the fear of not having it. What is expected is realized. “I don’t want the fears to happen.
4. Distract and lose focus. Start focusing on what you are already good at.
5. Start to resent the help.
6. Forget the goal completely. You just give yourself and just forget it. Have low self-esteem, are exhausted, and are too tired to do anything. Have a self-esteem crisis.
7. Avoidance behaviors, survival mode, no outcome, risk aversion.
“The first step of change is to recognize what is happening” This is a quote from a fantastic healer, Virginia Satir.
Change is change. Adapt to change and be in a good emotional resource state to do the work for your change.
“Can you see when fear is a habit instead of reacting to reality? Can you see when fear is negative future pacing instead of planning and learning? Can you step out of your fear? Do you have past arbitrary limits that you experience as real or absolutes that, upon reflection, are purely false and habits? How do you want your habits to be inside? What do you want to assume? What must happen to make those assumptions true? Scott McFall
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References:
1. Scott McFall www.hypnosisconnection.com
2. The Master Hypnotist Society, www.masterhypnotistsociety.com
3. The New People Making by Virginia Satir
4. Basic Techniques Book II by Clifford Wright
5. www.southeasthypnosis.com
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